Is it a game?
In my opinion, I would say no!
Are there those who treat it that way?
Well, of course. As with everything, you will always run across those who don't take the task seriously. Now, I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't have some fun along the way. After all, dating is supposed to be fun.
However, I do question the methods of dating when you've passed what some might consider the "prime dating time". While I may not be in my twenties (or even thirties) anymore, I am under the impression that I personally, am in the prime of my life.
What does this mean for dating?
In my way of thinking, I'm passed the age of hanging out in crowded bars looking for "hookups". Passed the age of going to wild parties or singles clubs. On the flip side, I think it does mean meeting for coffee, dinner, movie, etc. Taking things slow and getting to know each other on an intellectual level before proceeding to the physical side. This isn't to say that I'm not interested in the physical... because hey! I am a born and bread American woman, so yes, of course that's important. Just not all a relationship should be based on.
Let's talk about some of the crazy things I've run across in the dating pool lately that drive me bonkers........
- "Come on baby, send me a pic of your naked self." (NOT going to happen. I mean, come on... I might want to run for President one day. lol)
- "Are you cold?" (Just because my "nips" might be pushing against my bra does not mean I want to be asked every flipping time I'm around you if I'm cold. UGH!)
- "You're gonna leave me just like my other girlfriends." (Ummmmm.... Yeah, that's a check in the positive column for you... NOT!)
- "I have to take this call from my ex. She might need me to work on her car." (Okay..... I think this one needs no further elaboration.)
I think you get the point I'm trying to make. Now my question is, are there any real men out there who want to look beyond the surface veneer and see what's inside your heart? Are there any guys who understand what it means to have a passion for writing and that it's not just a hobby? Someone among the male population who are willing to spend time with you as a couple, but also see that you each need your own space sometimes?
I'm not giving up hope. If anything my resolve is stronger than ever to seek out that perfect someone. Yes, I realize no one is perfect and I don't expect that, because I am far from such. However, I do believe with all my heart that everyone has a sole mate out there...... Let's just see if I can find mine.
So I say..... let the dating game continue!